Performing Marriage

This morning, Britt and I were part of a panel of Southern Wesleyan couples who talked about marriage. Britt was great, and I had fun sharing with the community what a joy it is to be married with her.

But at times it was awkward.

The entire panel discussion asked me to perform my relationship. We shared one mic. We took turns talking. We finished each other’s stories. It was a bevy of rhetorical minefields to navigate, and we were doing it in front of a bunch of students.

It was a privilege to talk with the SWU community about my marriage and specifically how my relationship with Britt has brought me closer to God. That comes with responsibility: obedience. This is true even when we’re talking about a low-stakes panel. I want to model what being a good husband looks like for my colleagues and students mostly because I know I’ve been the beneficiary of model marriages as I’ve tried to be the godly husband Britt needs.

I am not enough for my wife. I will never be. Only God can provide her with the eternal certainty and significance she desires. What I’m glad about is that God has given me a chance to help Britt get closer to the one who can provide her with the certainty and significance she needs. What an amazing gift marriage is.